This video from Alex Cornell totally cracked me up. (Via SwissMiss) It’s a little NSFW I guess, but all the curse words are bleeped. Here’s the thing; Alex is describing a totally real phenomenon, that’s in part technology and in part shifting social norms. The two really do go hand in hand. But rather than just offer a hilarious snarky …
Ridiculously flattering interview :)
I was just interviewed on Caspar Craven’s blog. Not only does the man have an incredible name (!) and a long history in the online dating business, but he’s also just incredibly charming and fun to talk to. Caspar allowed me to wax on about many different points of online dating—I hope you guys find this entertaining and helpful. Give …
Learning from NYC’s most popular singles
NY Magazine ran a fascinating interview with NYC’s four most popular OkCupid members—a straight gal, a straight guy, a gay gal, and a gay guy. Check out these (clearly highly stylized) swanky portraits: I urge you to read the entire piece. It’s fun! But if you want to skip right to the practical takeaways, here are the tactics we can …
My first post on Medium
Hey lovebirds, hope you’ve had a great week! I wanted to share my first-ever piece on Medium, all about how much I dislike default text. There’s even some online dating relevancy in there: …straight guys, frustrated by low response rates from women, start to broaden their outreach by messaging a larger number of potentially less compatible women. This gets tedious, …
Going dark
Ugh, I *hate* when life gets in the way of my normal communication and business patterns, ya know? Like when you’re trapped at a boring conference with lots of down time and no Wi-Fi. 🙂 I’ve been in recovery (aka sleeping a lot, idly web browsing while zonked out on painkillers, and Netflix binging in bed) for the past week …
The Silence
I stumbled upon this lovely Guardian piece about the all-too-common online dating phenomenon known as The Silence. After experiencing being ignored a couple of times, it kind of felt that this was just the way it was done. An unwritten code of accepted rudeness that you probably wouldn’t apply in other aspects of your life – unless you were a …
Super secret past newsletters!
Hey folks, remember how I bugged you to sign up for the really good stuff in my newsletter? Well, I meant it, and I still do! The stuff I write for each issue is even more detail-oriented than this blog, because I want to really give the most helpful, specific advice to my most loyal readership. After all, you guys …