Online dating coaching vs. outsourcing

”Last week my pal Kate tweeted me this delightful link: I told you it was really gross dating tech guys in Seattle (cc: @askvirginia) http://t.co/cf7h2bYjhY — Kate K. (@kateseventy8) July 11, 2014   For now, let’s ignore Gawker’s weird graphic, and also put the issue of dating tech guys in Seattle on hold. I can guarantee that they’re not all gross—after all, …

The Economics of Love, from NPR’s Planet Money

NPR’s Planet Money is a wonderful podcast. Their most recent episode is on matters of the heart. In the first part, NPR reporter Lisa Chow shares her online dating approach. The second half is economist Tim Harford answering questions about matters of the heart. And the whole episode was SO GOOD, you guys! You should totally go listen (or better yet, subscribe; …

My first post on Medium

Hey lovebirds, hope you’ve had a great week! I wanted to share my first-ever piece on Medium, all about how much I dislike default text. There’s even some online dating relevancy in there: …straight guys, frustrated by low response rates from women, start to broaden their outreach by messaging a larger number of potentially less compatible women. This gets tedious, …

Going dark

Ugh, I *hate* when life gets in the way of my normal communication and business patterns, ya know? Like when you’re trapped at a boring conference with lots of down time and no Wi-Fi. 🙂 I’ve been in recovery (aka sleeping a lot, idly web browsing while zonked out on painkillers, and Netflix binging in bed) for the past week …

The Silence

I stumbled upon this lovely Guardian piece about the all-too-common online dating phenomenon known as The Silence. After experiencing being ignored a couple of times, it kind of felt that this was just the way it was done. An unwritten code of accepted rudeness that you probably wouldn’t apply in other aspects of your life – unless you were a …

The Doubleclicks ROCK! (Folk?)

Last night, my fantastic pal Jean took me and several other nerdy friends to an amazing nerd rock concert. The lineup included four amazing different bands that were all super duper dork-tastic. One in particular stood out to me, not necessarily because I loved their music the bestest (they were all amazing), but mostly because their lyrics resonated with topics …

Super secret past newsletters!

Hey folks, remember how I bugged you to sign up for the really good stuff in my newsletter? Well, I meant it, and I still do! The stuff I write for each issue is even more detail-oriented than this blog, because I want to really give the most helpful, specific advice to my most loyal readership. After all, you guys …

On misogynist asshats

Online dating is sometimes a scary and depressing thing for everyone, but especially for women. Through every point in human history, women have been inherently more vulnerable to violent and sexual crime. It’s a horrible frustrating unfair reality, and it’s necessary for us to acknowledge this in online dating, too. Women are more at risk than men, and they tend …