Bang first, and other Valentine advice

As I mentioned the other day, Valentine’s Day and its accompanying frenzy is right around the corner. Whee! Thankfully, Valentine’s Day Panic (VDP) is one of those things you can opt out of, like my mailing list or freshly ground pepper or airplane headphones. One of my favorite advice columnists, Dan Savage, regularly tells couples that they should “f*ck first” (his …