NYC’s ‘most popular’ straight gal weighs in on OkCupid

Remember that piece a couple months back about NYC’s most messaged singles? The straight gal from that roster wrote a thoughtful follow-up post on xoJane. Lauren Urasek was forthcoming about the ups and downs of being popular on OkCupid. She, like anyone, winds up going on first dates where she wishes there was a second one but the other party …

Another math/data genius who “hacked” online dating

Remember a few months back, when Amy Webb’s TED Talk about how she hacked online dating went viral? Well I sure do; I still get tons of clients from my analysis of her strategy. And now we’ve got this Wired article about a mathematician dude who “hacked” OkCupid over the course of several years. You can’t blame me for analyzing …

The Verge’s OkCupid interview

The Verge is kicking off a series interviewing startup companies called Small Empires, and their most recent interview was with the rather large empire of OkCupid. The interview is fascinating to me (of course), but I think it might also fascinate singles who use OkCupid and its competitor online dating services. There’s a lot to unpack here; I’m coming from …

VentureBeat’s dating app deep(ish) dive

Whoops! I missed my first-ever post since I started sticking to this thrice-weekly schedule. But it was for a good reason, I swear: Grant had Wednesday off! (He’s been working insane hours so we spent that surprise free day together.) The thing I love most about having my own little business is being able to flex like that on a …

Deep dive into different dating sites!

Hi y’all! Episode 6 of The Heartographer podcast, “Those People are Wrong,” went live on Monday, and it’s all about different online dating sites and what “flavor” they all have. ALL of the info here is a generalization, which as we know isn’t always perfect. But it’s a start! SO MANY people asked for this topic to be tackled, so I will …

Up-Goer Five and your online dating profile

I was recently at a fantastic Meetup event hosted by my pal Bethany, in which we professionals were trying to hone in on our message/tagline to clearly convey what we do to people we’re meeting for the first time. I myself very much need to focus on this kind of messaging, because SO many people don’t know what an “online …

Avner Geller’s amazing OKCupid art

I recently stumbled upon links to Avner Geller’s blog post about OKCupid. He’s a San Francisco illustrator with an amazing talent for capturing whimsical, playful faces on even his grown-up characters. I just love his work. Check out these three images he did based on his first OKCupid impressions! All images are used with permission; please visit avnergeller.blogspot.com to see …

Smartphone dating apps

Hey all, check it out! The wonderful Mark E. Harris reached out to me for input on this NextAvenue piece on smartphone apps for single Baby Boomers. It was a nice excuse to research quite a few apps in more detail than I had done previously. The trouble is, I really think apps aren’t up to part with their web …

You have to go on a LOT of dates

Mallory Schlossberg wrote a great post over at TheFrisky about her hot-and-cold relationship with OKCupid. She cracks me up! She complains about how she’s on again and off again with the service, partly because she kind of overloads herself with millions of dates and then finds something wrong with each and every one. But after a few rounds of doing …

You can’t please ’em all, no matter what you make or do

Marco Arment recently wrote this great post on Apple app reviews, review culture in general, and the fallacy of trying to please all your customers. Go read his entire post, please! He’s a cool dude who makes really wonderful products like Instapaper, The Magazine, and this now-unavailable breastfeeding timer app that look just trust me the guy’s rad. He was the principal …